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Comparing kills.
written on Friday, June 7, 2013 @ 12:07 PM ✈
"Comparisons are the heart of all heartaches and headaches"
- Amelia Lee
LOLS :DRemember how like when u were young and after every test ur mom be like , "How much did ur classmates get for the test ?!" or maybe like "Why cant u get full marks ?!"  then the comparing continues .. "Why ur friend can score so much higher than u and why cant u ?!" i think i heard this kind of comments like 1000 times last time luckily now IM FREE ~ i remember also lying to my mom so that she wouldnt kill me for scoring that amount of marks LOLS like example i got 55 and the highest is 61 "But .. The highest is only 61 and im like very high already .. The rest of the class failed u know .." HAHAS and it does cool my mom down omg Im NOT trying to say u should lie to ur parents about ur marks to escape scolding but rather hopefully one day they wont try to compare with other people so much . Even in school like after the teacher hands the papers back to the class For sure for sure there will be some people who scored ultra high in class and going around to ask for marks PLUS giving off the smug face , the i-scored-higher-than-uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu face -.- that kind of face is really irritating to see actually  "HEY ! How much did u get for this test ?!" would be the normal question from this kind of face  and right after u compare there will be 2 emotions 1. Happy or 2. Sad of course comparing to someone better would make u feel worse wont it ? and comparing to someone even worse might make u feel better but only temporary these things doesnt stay for longggggg so .. the question is .. "Why Compare ?"
yes .. and common sentence to re-counter would be
"What's so bad about comparing ??"
im not saying that it's bad nor good . Its just in my own opinion , if u have different opinions ITS FINE
its not like im asking u to CHANGE IT
CHANGE IT NOWWW
no im not asking u to be like that
nor am i asking u to be a lamp .
for example , take a look at couples who are happy always and those who kinda have a lot of arguments
In my opinion , having a few arguments can strengthen the relationship but not toooo much
having too much will just destroy it slowly .. and leading it to a mutual break
sometimes i hear couples or the females who will usually say ..
"Why dont u do this to meeeeee" or
"aww .. look that girl's boyfriend is so sweet , why wont u do something like that too !" and ..
Female sees another cpl's having lunch together happily and guy pays for lunch.
Female : -Sending messages to boyfriends head "Treat me to lunch"-
Male : "mm yes ?"
Female : -saddened- "ohh nothing .."
Male : "There isnt nothing , tell me !"
Then the female gets irritated by the male's bombardment of asking 'why whywhywhwyhywhywhwyhwyhwy'
and she gets MADDDD
UR BOYFRIENDS ARENT REALLY MIND READERS U KNOW .
NOR ARE U OF ANY GOOD IN TELEPATHY .
no it doesnt happen that way
with that , it could lead to a fight etcetc blahblah
and it turns UGLYYYY
kinda true isnt it ? hahahs just saying from personal experience by seeing other people
I realised after something that , its better to not compare at all actually .
In relationships :each of your bf/gf treat u differently from other people . they want to be different !
not the same as every other couple walking around on the streets etcetc
the way they want to treat u , or how they feel like treating u is their own special way !
so stop comparing with other couples on the street for awhile .
I know especially females will always look at other couples and see what they are doing HAHAS
cause i am one :D
yea .. so dont try to compare u both with other couples cause even though they might have what u dont have
u will HAVE what they dont have too :)
take a step back and notice all the things that ur partner has done for u
appreciate every single little thought of him/her doing it and dont compare
because not comparing .. might help and make u happier :)
In families :
I know most of the Asian moms would always compare to kids when they have a test etcetc
and im not saying to ask ur parents to tell them to stop comparing either
nor am i asking u to not do ur best and lie to them like what i did LOLS xD
what i am saying is .. U need to do ur best and tell them that u actually did ur best
even though sometimes they might not listen to u and demand for more
hopefully that one day they will realise that comparing is bad too , and the kids will get affected :(
Try ur best in everything that u do :)
Maybe next time , u will then realise the pain of comparing , how bad it makes someone or urself feels
To friends :
HAHAS i know most of the friends would probably ask u for ur marks and give u a ..
"HAH IN UR FACE , I SCORED MORE THAN U"
dont take it to heart :)
they are just making fun of u cause they know that being such good friends with them , u wouldnt be angry at them
Dont treat them as enemies or anything since they didnt really do anything wrong :/
Maybe try to beat them at something again to return them the favour of ..
"HAH IN URRRRRRR FACE ."
The picture is actually quite funny LOLS .
And yes ..
Comparing always makes u feel at the worse end doesnt it ?
because the other party always have something that u dont .
Or maybe the other party has achieved something that u always wanted and u cant .
no one says that its impossble , just the amount of effort thats put in to it :)
u can ignore if u really think that u are happy with what u have and what u already have achieved
Hopefully my words will reach someone but i dont know who -w-
And this is just my opinion , u dont have to follow it cause i know there will be tons of other people with different opinions out there saying ..
"But comparing makes u reach for even higher goals !" etcetc
But that will then be another story to tell :)
A cute llama to end my post .
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